We all want a friend, but first, are we a friend? Are we worthy of being a friend? Following on from yesterday’s revelation about friendship and relationships, which you can find by clicking here. I was challenged into asking myself, what do I bring to the table?
No one wants to be a friend with the person who always takes the last pizza slice. No one wants to be friends with the person who puts themselves first. No one wants to be friends with a taker. We all want to be friends with the giver. Friends with the person who gives us their last smartie. Friends with the person who takes the time to hear us out in our time of need. We all want a friend who makes us happy and uplifts our spirit in our darkest days.
We all want a friend, but first, are we a friend? Are we worthy of being a friend?
God has revealed some very interesting stuff (To me at least). To be a friend is to help someone else. No relationship is worth entering unless you both help each other, it is not a one way thing, but a two way thing, in which we multiply our efforts by joining forces, as Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 says
9 Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. 10 If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. 11 Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? 12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.
And Genesis 2:18
18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
“Every relationship that God wants you to have, will multiply your efforts in life.” Dr Robb Thompson says it as it is. Friendship is about helping, it is about helping them become, it is about doing good for them with no ulterior motives. Don’t we all want to be the God sent friend in someone’s life? The person who helped them? The person who made them become a better person? I still have lots to learn on this matter, but here is a start.
Friendship, what is it?
It is like the concept of horses, individually, they can pull a certain weight, but if harnessed together, they can pull more than double that weight. But a horse can not pull the extra load by himself, it has to be done together. I am learning that this is the same in life. A team can carry out more than individuals can, if each member of the team is contributing. God has shown me that I really haven’t been the best team player lately, I haven’t been the friend I ought to be, so to my friends reading this, firstly I apologise for not pulling my weight, and secondly, let’s do this, together! I am here to help!
I challenge you to ask yourself, what kind of friend have you been? We all can be a better friend to someone. It starts by helping them.
Maybe you guys have some lesson’s God has taught you with regards to friends and friendship? Would love to learn from you!