To throw a seed, or to sow a seed, the principle trickles down to relationships.
It is easy to throw a seed, you don’t have to put your back in to it, you merely have to walk by and simply move your hand a little. Put it in the context of relationships and friendships, a hey there, a how are you now and then, your throwing your seed. We all know the verse of how God’s word can fall onto different types of soil representing the states of our heart.
Mark 4:3-8; 15-20
3 Listen! A farmer went out to sow his seed. 4 As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. 5 Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow. 6 But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root. 7 Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants, so that they did not bear grain. 8 Still other seed fell on good soil. It came up, grew and produced a crop, some multiplying thirty, some sixty, some a hundred times … 15 Some people are like seed along the path, where the word is sown. As soon as they hear it, Satan comes and takes away the word that was sown in them. 16 Others, like seed sown on rocky places, hear the word and at once receive it with joy. 17 But since they have no root, they last only a short time. When trouble or persecution comes because of the word, they quickly fall away. 18 Still others, like seed sown among thorns, hear the word; 19 but the worries of this life, the deceitfulness of wealth and the desires for other things come in and choke the word, making it unfruitful. 20 Others, like seed sown on good soil, hear the word, accept it, and produce a crop—some thirty, some sixty, some a hundred times what was sown.
In relationships, I believe the same soil exist, so by you throwing your seed, not sowing it, you are merely waiting for externalities to help you build and grow the relationship. Depending on the soil your seed falls, depending on the rain of others words watering our seed, depending on the sun to encourage one’s growth by warming one’s heart, that will decide the growth of your relationships. However, I don’t think this should be.
So how then should we, and do we grow our relationships? Well if you just sow like above, you are going to have to cover a lot of ground, meeting and greeting lots of people before your seed takes on ready, good soil. The problem I found, was by the time it’s starting to grow, we have often moved on, to impatient to wait, trying to sow seeds in other places, leaving what has started to grow to fend for itself against the elements, probably dying before we can get back to it. This was my life at least, trying to be friends with everyone by being ‘friendly’ to everyone.
Whilst listening to Dr. Robb Thompson this morning, something hit me in his divine relationship series. Paraphrased, “1000 people with a one dollar seed, or that 1000 dollars sown into one person, which one of those two do you believe will produce for you?” Why?
I realised it is the same as our seed, we will get far more from our seed if we invest everything into it, rather than giving it a part of what we have. You can do a lot more with a 1000 dollars then a mere dollar.
So for me, throwing our seed is merely splitting our investment among many people, splitting our time ineffectively.
But here is the good news, we have the opportunity to sow our seed, not merely throw it. You see sowing a seed requires us to put our back into it, to put effort into the soil, preparing it for our seed, making it good soil, waiting until the season is right, so that when we do plant and sow our seed, we shall see growth and reap the harvest in its fullest. This doesn’t mean we don’t have a field of seeds growing, I am not saying we should only have one friend. What I am saying though, is we need to make sure that we are looking after the seed we sow, and only sowing that, which we can properly manage and care for.
An investment is useless unless we look after it. So what does looking after our seed entail?
Well for starters:
- It means we are there in an instant when trouble comes, when the pests come, we are ready with our insecticides to fend off the attacks on our friends and protect them from being hurt, killing any gossip about them.
- It means we spend time ‘researching’, finding out more about our friends, learning what makes them grow and what there needs are.
- It means we fertilise when ready, buying the gift and giving it to our friend.
- It means spending the time with our friend pruning them as needs be.
- It means de-weeding the soil around our seed, casting and pulling out any doubts our friends may have about the dreams and future.
- It means digging deep to set our seed in the right place, deep in our friends heart, finding what else may lay there.
- It means planting in season, knowing when to encourage our friends and when to prune them.
You see it is when we do all of this for one, and not one of the above for all, then we will see the growth in our relationships that we desire. It is when we love our friends enough to give them our full friendship, full attention and take the first step in sowing the seed, following with the remaining steps, that we shall see our relationships with our friends become stronger.