So maybe you haven’t heard what was my secret, well here it is. I was addicted to porn. You can read my full story here.
I am here to tell you though, that telling my secret was the best thing I ever did. As Proverbs 28:13 say:
Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper,
but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.
When we bring our sin to the light, take it out of the concealed place in us, things begin to change, we begin to prosper! So how do we bring our sin to the light, how do we take our sins out of their concealed place?
Step 1 – Bring it to God
We first need to bring our sins to God, for this is where we will find mercy for them. Some people ask why we need to do this if God already knows everything we do in the dark? He may know what we do, but He wants to know that we know what we are doing is wrong and that we know we need His help and forgiveness. When we bring our sins before God, it is our way of showing God that we know what we were doing is wrong and that we are not trying to hide something from Him, not that we ever could! Bringing our sins before God is not for His sake, but for our’s!
You, God, know my folly; my guilt is not hidden from you.
Then I acknowledged my sin to you
and did not cover up my iniquity.
I said, “I will confess
my transgressions to the Lord.”
And you forgave
the guilt of my sin.
On a side note to this, I would just like to state that God has already forgiven us, and no matter what we do, it will not change whether He forgives us, or loves us more or less. He already loves us the most He can. He is just waiting for us to receive His love and forgiveness, so that we may move closer to Him. This does not mean we continue in our sin as we know we are forgiven, but it does mean we do not have to feel guilty and try harder each time we ‘beg’ God for forgiveness. All we have to do is confess Jesus as our Saviour and we will be forgiven!
What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We are those who have died to sin; how can we live in it any longer?
Romans 10:9-10; 13
If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved … for, “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”
Step 2 – Find some good Christian friends who you can be accountable to
We all need friends. We also need those friends in our lives who will encourage us, those who will challenge us when we are wrong, and those who we can confess our sins to so that they may pray for us not to fall into such sin again.
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
I do not mean we go tell everyone about everything, certainly not! I do, however, believe that we should have between 1-4 people in our lives who we can go to and let them know what is going on in our lives. Not only should they encourage us, but they should help point us to God when we sin and do not realise it. Now if someone is going through what you are going through, they are not the person to go to, you can not go to the blind for guidance. What I mean is, you will not find the help you need in breaking free from an addiction from someone who themselves is still an addict or a recovering one, you need the help of someone who has overcome their addiction through Christ. This also applies to all other areas of your life.
Step 3 – Let your light be a light for others
We need to lead others to Christ. Our secret should be a part of our testimony. When we are scared to share our testimony of what Christ has done, it means we have not truly been set free by Christ yet, it means that we are still wanting to keep our secret in the dark, this should not be! If this is you, pray about it. At first I was terrified to share my testimony, terrified of what people may think of me, terrified of what the other sex may think of me if they knew I was a porn addict. The only reason I came out about it, was because I was asked by my pastor to share my testimony and include all that, which may not be known by others. So I did what I thought I would never be ready to do.
I can say now, that it was the most empowering experience, to bring my sin entirely into the light, it is not hidden from anyone what I did. The devil has power over us when we have secret sins in our lives, it is almost as if he blackmails us saying, “remember what you did, so how can you…” trying to get us out of taking a step of faith that God needs us to take.
2 Corinthians 4:6
For God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” made his light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of God’s glory displayed in the face of Christ.
Be the light that shines out of the darkness, be the light that Christ has called you to be so that we may glorify Him! We can not glorify Him if we hold secrets in our lives, as the devil will always blackmail us out of it. So I urge you today to tell your secret by following the above three steps, and find the power of telling your secret!
Part 1 – THE POWER OF MY BREAKTHROUGH FROM PORN
Part 2 – THE POWER OF GLORIFYING GOD
Part 3 – THE POWER OF INTIMACY
Part 4 – THE POWER OF SAYING NO
This is part 5
Part 6 – THE POWER OF HOLDING A TRIGGER
Part 7 – THE POWER OF TURNING A BACK ON PORN
Part 8 – THE POWERLESSNESS OF MY STRUGGLE WITH PORN
Part 9 – A REMINDER THAT GOD LOVES YOU
Part 10 – ACCEPTING JESUS AS YOUR SAVIOUR (This should actually be step one!)